Children are a joy and as parents our love, guidance, and consistent enforcement of boundaries will teach them how to help themselves. In the early years of development we are financially responsible for providing their material, physical, emotional, and psychological needs. After that it’s about releasing control and providing a nurturing, supportive, environment helping them learn values. Being parents is a balance between discipline and nurturing.
Guilt and shame interfere with our children’s development and our parenting. We can hold them accountable for their actions at an age-appropriate level. Of course, we need only do our best. Then we can let go of their own process of living.
So, we can ask for strength to help us find an appropriate balance of responsibility to our children. We can ask for help in parenting through nurturing and discipline, instead of control. Then we can let go and trust in the embrace of love found in the “Azure Edge”.
Saturday, September 02, 2006
Thursday, August 31, 2006
Are we like Alice in Wonderland?
Alice came to a fork in the road.
"Which road do I take?" she asked.
"Where do you want to go?" responded the Cheshire cat.
"I don't know," Alice answered.
"Then," said the cat, "it doesn't matter."
~Lewis Carroll
When searching for direction, especially on the road of life, it's refreshing to run across someone with perspective like the clever feline. In this world we seem to have been trained to expect something other than genuine honesty. "Where do you want to go?", truly is the question.
We all know that direction needs a clear destination and inner purpose. Of course, to help us keep on track a compass comes in handy.
Remember, this seemingly fearful time is really our internal "alert" system letting us know that we are still committed to our inner truth of "life purpose". We are letting ourselves know that we are merely in need of a course correction. Afterall, pilots flying from the mainland to Hawaii are constantly making course corrections to land on a dime on an island in the Pacific called paradise.
Once we understand that we are still on track and merely making a course correction we are no longer embarrassed or condemning. Instead we find validity in knowing we are still committed to our "life purpose" and are able to get on course once again.
This is your life and posses a unique "life purpose". Use your internal compass and celebrate the "Wonderment" of your life's purpose. Allow it to unfold each day as you make course corrections to ultimately reach the destination of "YOU" which is the unfolding of your "life purpose" in the "AzureEdge".
"Which road do I take?" she asked.
"Where do you want to go?" responded the Cheshire cat.
"I don't know," Alice answered.
"Then," said the cat, "it doesn't matter."
~Lewis Carroll
When searching for direction, especially on the road of life, it's refreshing to run across someone with perspective like the clever feline. In this world we seem to have been trained to expect something other than genuine honesty. "Where do you want to go?", truly is the question.
We all know that direction needs a clear destination and inner purpose. Of course, to help us keep on track a compass comes in handy.
Remember, this seemingly fearful time is really our internal "alert" system letting us know that we are still committed to our inner truth of "life purpose". We are letting ourselves know that we are merely in need of a course correction. Afterall, pilots flying from the mainland to Hawaii are constantly making course corrections to land on a dime on an island in the Pacific called paradise.
Once we understand that we are still on track and merely making a course correction we are no longer embarrassed or condemning. Instead we find validity in knowing we are still committed to our "life purpose" and are able to get on course once again.
This is your life and posses a unique "life purpose". Use your internal compass and celebrate the "Wonderment" of your life's purpose. Allow it to unfold each day as you make course corrections to ultimately reach the destination of "YOU" which is the unfolding of your "life purpose" in the "AzureEdge".
Wednesday, August 30, 2006
Real Love
Love and Acceptance
We are all looking for love and acceptance. But how many of us love and accept ourselves?
Someone who has found him or her, figured out what works for them, and accepts their approach to life is uniquely special and gives breath to the lives they touch.
It takes a special person to love and accept him or herself as we are our harshest critics.
What's odd is that to love ourselves and to be loved in return implies two identities within each of us.
Perhaps it is an "adult"/"child" relationship or a "mind-perception-based-false-ego" in contrast with a "being-real-based-true-soul".
In any event, it's good to know we each have a friend at all times ready to love and remind us of the joy life can bring each day if we allow it.
Today, I allow myself to feel emotions, and my mind to project thoughts, all the while knowing that they are NOT real. I honor the process and breath in the truth of knowing all is unfolding in perfect order.
We are all looking for love and acceptance. But how many of us love and accept ourselves?
Someone who has found him or her, figured out what works for them, and accepts their approach to life is uniquely special and gives breath to the lives they touch.
It takes a special person to love and accept him or herself as we are our harshest critics.
What's odd is that to love ourselves and to be loved in return implies two identities within each of us.
Perhaps it is an "adult"/"child" relationship or a "mind-perception-based-false-ego" in contrast with a "being-real-based-true-soul".
In any event, it's good to know we each have a friend at all times ready to love and remind us of the joy life can bring each day if we allow it.
Today, I allow myself to feel emotions, and my mind to project thoughts, all the while knowing that they are NOT real. I honor the process and breath in the truth of knowing all is unfolding in perfect order.
Monday, August 28, 2006
Real and Un-real
A Course In Miracles begins:
Nothing "REAL" can be threatened.
Nothing unreal exists.
Herin lies the peace of God.
We need to trust that all is working in perfect order regardless of our subjective judgemental perceptions based on what is "un-real". We could choose to focus on what is "REAL" and unchanging, which has no end or begining, which lies beyond time and process with no opposite. It is truth.
The "gap" between thoughts in the silence of a moment inhaled deeply into the lungs provides a glimpse of inner peace. This peace of God may be experienced as love. We can walk in His presence or in love, moment to moment, as in prayer, resting between thoughts, between the cracks of our perceived notions, holding onto the non changing truth of the "Knowing" found in the "Azureedge".
Nothing "REAL" can be threatened.
Nothing unreal exists.
Herin lies the peace of God.
We need to trust that all is working in perfect order regardless of our subjective judgemental perceptions based on what is "un-real". We could choose to focus on what is "REAL" and unchanging, which has no end or begining, which lies beyond time and process with no opposite. It is truth.
The "gap" between thoughts in the silence of a moment inhaled deeply into the lungs provides a glimpse of inner peace. This peace of God may be experienced as love. We can walk in His presence or in love, moment to moment, as in prayer, resting between thoughts, between the cracks of our perceived notions, holding onto the non changing truth of the "Knowing" found in the "Azureedge".
Wednesday, August 23, 2006
Sit in Spirit
So, things are not going as you would like? Maybe you are confused and searching for direction and a plan.
When things are rough in our lives we need to trust in God's plan. One way to catch a glimpse of this plan is to listen while sitting in the silence of our own soul.
We need to seek solitude and focus on ourselves allowing alone time to heal our dysfunctional behaviors. Working on ourselves allows us to have more to give another.
That is the greatest gift of "love". To love ourselves with God while getting our ship afloat and sailing before we take on passengers.
We need to be self reliant in a healthy way while discarding our bagage that weights us down from being the best we can for ourselves, children, family and friends and ultimately a sacred partner.
So, it's a collaboration process with Spirit instead of holding onto our pride or Ego and negative traits. In esssense we are learning to love ourselves first with God knowing that all is working in perfect order regardless of appearance.
Let go of the fear of being alone and on your own while trusting in the process and perfect plan for your life.
So, things are not going as you would like? Maybe you are confused and searching for direction and a plan.
When things are rough in our lives we need to trust in God's plan. One way to catch a glimpse of this plan is to listen while sitting in the silence of our own soul.
We need to seek solitude and focus on ourselves allowing alone time to heal our dysfunctional behaviors. Working on ourselves allows us to have more to give another.
That is the greatest gift of "love". To love ourselves with God while getting our ship afloat and sailing before we take on passengers.
We need to be self reliant in a healthy way while discarding our bagage that weights us down from being the best we can for ourselves, children, family and friends and ultimately a sacred partner.
So, it's a collaboration process with Spirit instead of holding onto our pride or Ego and negative traits. In esssense we are learning to love ourselves first with God knowing that all is working in perfect order regardless of appearance.
Let go of the fear of being alone and on your own while trusting in the process and perfect plan for your life.
Sunday, August 20, 2006
The sea of life may be stormy at times and challenge the core of our being. With waves threatening our small craft we need to be in the moment addressing the tasks at hand to survive another day. What keeps us going is the promise that this too shall change. Sunny skies will come again and warmth will embrase us. Remember the saying that "All I need is inside me now."
Wednesday, August 16, 2006
What is love? Is it a "projection" of what we see of ourselves in another? Is it an ideal that we hold as "the" ultimate partner?
I think love is the ability to put the other person's welfare first above your wants, needs and desires regardless of your loss.
Some want romance, while others cling to an ideal "family" situation all the while wanting to put children first. Stability is important to children and any parent putting the needs of their children first are correct in thought and action.
Bless all those parents who are not selfish and through their selflessness uphold their children above their own desires.
God Bless.
I think love is the ability to put the other person's welfare first above your wants, needs and desires regardless of your loss.
Some want romance, while others cling to an ideal "family" situation all the while wanting to put children first. Stability is important to children and any parent putting the needs of their children first are correct in thought and action.
Bless all those parents who are not selfish and through their selflessness uphold their children above their own desires.
God Bless.
Saturday, August 12, 2006
God's Will and Directness
What is God's will for us? Are we destined to a predetermined path or are we captains of our journey? Niche said "He who has a Why to live for can bear with almost any How." A purpose driven life or value driven life may be our Why. Values and purpose then help co-create our map thus, determining the path of our journey. Begining with the end in mind gives us a much better chance at reaching our destination.
If we sit still in God's presence between thoughts in the Now; answers come and perspective is gained. Then, we are truly being human-beings instead of human-doings. This directness of purpose, in sitting and being, allows God's Will to be revealed and ultimately realized in the moment. This is the moment caught between our own E.G.O. of "Edging God Out" and the oneness of Spirit minus our own mind chatter. Thus, God's will, our co-captain, through directness of purpose, reveals our "Why" in the mist of smiply Being in that etherel place called the "Azure Edge".
- Romans 12:2 “Be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind.” -
If we sit still in God's presence between thoughts in the Now; answers come and perspective is gained. Then, we are truly being human-beings instead of human-doings. This directness of purpose, in sitting and being, allows God's Will to be revealed and ultimately realized in the moment. This is the moment caught between our own E.G.O. of "Edging God Out" and the oneness of Spirit minus our own mind chatter. Thus, God's will, our co-captain, through directness of purpose, reveals our "Why" in the mist of smiply Being in that etherel place called the "Azure Edge".
- Romans 12:2 “Be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind.” -
Friday, August 11, 2006
Longing for Love
What do we all long for but to love and be loved in return? How is it that few of us find what we desire? Are we looking for love in all the wrong places? How about the people we choose to whole-heartedly give ourselves to and then find out that we have been betrayed? How is that few in our world find happiness in love?
Maybe it's because we need to first seek to love ourselves. Isn't that where this feeling comes from? Our inner work thus creates our outer reality. We can continue to give yet understand that others will let us down. Expectations are just that "expectations".
It helps to know that there will be weeds in our garden. We just need to pull those weeds early. This helps ensure that our flowers blossom and spread their fragrant beauty on the winds of change. After all, nothing remains constant except change.
So, we need to continue to love ourselves in order to be loved and know that love comes from within each of us. We can not control another person's choices regardless of wether we agree with their choices or not.
Perhaps our only option is to hold tight and cherish those rare moments of being in-love which are caught in between thoughts and reside in the “azure edge”.
Maybe it's because we need to first seek to love ourselves. Isn't that where this feeling comes from? Our inner work thus creates our outer reality. We can continue to give yet understand that others will let us down. Expectations are just that "expectations".
It helps to know that there will be weeds in our garden. We just need to pull those weeds early. This helps ensure that our flowers blossom and spread their fragrant beauty on the winds of change. After all, nothing remains constant except change.
So, we need to continue to love ourselves in order to be loved and know that love comes from within each of us. We can not control another person's choices regardless of wether we agree with their choices or not.
Perhaps our only option is to hold tight and cherish those rare moments of being in-love which are caught in between thoughts and reside in the “azure edge”.
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