Too often we live in the past. Someone or something appears to be in the present through focus of thought. Our thoughts of the past do not make it reality of the NOW. Perhaps the past needs to stay in the past as we live our current lives in the now. However, when love abounds it is not that easy.
Love unreturned is just that, unreturned love. To think that the person you project onto will return their love is immature. You are only in control of yourself. If you have love to give someone than do so. But, don't expect to have that love returned. You cannot control another person nor control their feelings.
Instead of saying that you are "in love" with someone we may need to explore what we are experiencing and communicate more descriptively what we are trying to say. Other languages have many words for the varying incarnations of love. However, those speaking English will have to utilize further descriptive in defining their experience of love.
Many love out of neediness and seeking self-fulfillment or distraction through another. This type of love called co-dependence is a false sense of what a mature relationship could be. This type of love misses out on inter-dependence and is as elusive as a unicorn amongst the masses. Healthy love relationships need to begin with healthy individuals who ultimately come together minus the neediness and fulfillment seeking behavior.
So seek first to understand yourself and be fulfilled from within instead of looking outwardly for that one person who will complete your life.
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