To Lead A Better Life

"To lead a better life I need my love to be here..." are the opening words from the Beatles "Here, There and Everywhere" hit. Do we need a special someone here, there, and everywhere to lead a better life? The romantic in me says YES! But, the recovering co-dependent says sheepishly "no". I think it's "no" as the voice is really quiet.

It is so much easier to have another love us, someone, and at times, anyone, to show us how special we are. It feels good like the warmth of a fire on a cold winter's day. It takes a special person to be willing to trudge out in the cold snow while they maintain their inner warmth to enjoy the winter wonderland of those Arctic chills of life circumstance we have all experienced.

It's hard to love ourselves during these times while we hang on to self limiting beliefs including those false projections from others. It takes work to continually remind ourselves that we are lovable, have value, and are worth knowing. These are just some of the things that are needed in our winter survival pack.

To stoke the inner fire of warmth you may want to say aloud as you trudge "All I need is inside me now. All the love I need is inside me now. All the joy I need is inside me now. All the happiness I need is inside me now." The more you trudge while reciting this and feeling it to be true the more warmth you will gain from within.

If the outer world begins with the inner world perhaps we could start "falling in love" with ourselves. We could start with compassion for that inner child that feels rejected, insecure, or unloved. We could spend time with ourselves discovering our preferences in activities, food, and the like. Maybe it would be like dating our self with an agreed date and time including the activity scheduled for once a week.

Perhaps the phrase "I need my love to be here" is love for ourselves each moment in the here and now. The love we all desire is not found in another yet is enhanced through another. So, once we carry our love for ourselves with us we can "lead a better life" instead of relying on another and dragging them around "Here, There, and Everywhere".

So, to all those experiencing the winter chill, or know someone who is, remind them to stoke their inner fire by chanting "All the love I need is within me now"!